Hi Just Breath
I hope that you will find the forum helpful for you
Have you tried writing out exactly how you feel, so that you know what to say when the time feels right?
Or have you considered writing how you feel and letting your husband read it?
It would not have to be a list of bad things; it could have positives and negatives.
Have you considered that he, too, may feel unhappy about the way things are?
Might counselling be an option?
Have you read the books of John Gray?
You could probably find them in a library, and they are very good for helping people to understand ~ and communicate with ~ their partners. Communication seems to be one of your problems, at present.
This is the website:
http://home.marsvenus.com/Some background might be useful;
How long have you been married?
Do you have children?
Do you go out together to enjoy yourselves?
Could you arrange 'a date'?
Sometimes a change of venue can be helpful.