My Boyfriend Goes to Strip Clubs

Visitor’s Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Every night after dinner my boyfriend goes out to strip clubs. He says it’s just to hang out with friends and have a few beers – but he leaves me behind with our toddler. So I can’t leave the house or socialize but he’s out drinking and staring at naked women.

I’ve tried to tell him I’m not happy with this but he enjoys his time with his friends so much that he doesn’t really care.

What should I do? Advice
It’s always hard when a partner chooses other people over the person they’re supposedly committed to. It’d be one thing if he had his “guy’s night out” where he did his own thing. That is fairly healthy in a relationship. But for a partner’s default way of spending time to be off with other people, abandoning the person they supposedly have put first in life, something’s wrong.

It’s time to have a real talk about this. Surely there is something you two could do together that he’d enjoy, at least some of the time. If he honestly can’t think of anything, then, as hard as it might be, it’s probably time to take a hard look at this relationship. If you are that far down on his list of priorities, there are undoubtedly MANY men out there who would have a different point of view.

— from Lisa
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