Hi kimzzz
I'll just add some of my thoughts to Sala's.
Maybe, between us, we can help a bit.
i have a problem with my fiancee,
So really you both have problems.
in brief she started to feel that i don't love her,
or i want to break up.
Right, let's think what might be going on here ..
Maybe being engaged is such a big deal ~ and it certainly should be ~ that she's is getting nervous about it, or wondering if she has made the right decision. A commitment for life to one person is, indeed, a hige commitment.
of course thats not true,
i really love her and
i can't imagin living without her.
Are you certain?
Are you sure about this life-long commitment to one woman?
If you are both certain, then that is a good start.
she started to feel that 3 weeks ago
(we were engaged 5 weeks ago)
she started to feel that since first [censored] thing i have done.
Now why, after just getting engaged to you, would she suddenly start to doubt you?
What on earth is this one and only bad thing that you have done, which is causing her uncertainty?
the problem now is she think that i don't love her,
Are you sure that she thinks that you don't love her?
Has she said that?
If that is what she thinks, then she will certainly be having doubts about marriage.
No woman would really want to marry a man who doesn't love her.
But why would she think this, if you have only recently proposed to her?
but to be true i have 3 main problems,
How long have you known her?
Surely, if she knows you well enough to agree to marry you, then she must know about these "3 main problems"!?
first i lack every kind of experience,
Not sure what you mean and why this might cause a problem.
Perhaps you are very young and/or not very worldly-wise.
But this shouldn't really cause a 'pre-marital tiff, I wouldn't have thought. Couples learn together.
2nd my feeling never shown in any situition
or even on my face,
Well, I suppose some people are just like this, but, if she knows you and loves you enough to get engaged to you, she must already know this???
the third is that most of time i feel like i'm lacking concentration
So, do you ignore her or something like that?
If you aren't taking much notice of her already, that might cause her some concern.
and saying unforgivable words.
You say 'unforgivable words'? To her?
Why would you be saying 'unforgivable words' to the girl you love and want to spend the rest of your life with?
'Unforgivable words', by their very nature are 'unforgivable'.
What have you done about this?
Have you apologised and asked for forgiveness?
Have you asked yourself why you said such things?
I am wondering if she contributed to this discussion at all?
Did you argue?
Did
she utter any 'unforgivable words'?
please i need help,
i don't wanna lose her.
I'm a bit confused as to why you are saying horrible, unforgivable things to the girl you love, who has just agreed to marry you? ~ Why you have done this 'first [censored] thing' that has upset her.
If I were her, I think that I, too, might be having doubts.
On the other hand, everying makes mistakes and loved-ones tend to forgive, if the mistake is not too big.
Can she be sure that you will not make her future miserable? That you will not hurt her?
If you believe that she is the one for you and that she will be a happy wife in your care ~ that you can be a good, caring, loving husband to her and you will not cause her pain, but will take care of her and show her that you love her, then you need to promise her that.
If you feel that you can say this to her and make her believe it, fine, but if you cannot show your true feelings easily, then maybe you should write it to her in a letter. People like love-letters. But writing it down does not excuse you from showing it too. It must be truthful.
