When ever I ask if she wants to hang out she would say I'll have to ask ( bfs name ) or I'll talk to ( bfs name ).
In view of what you have said here, I'm wondering how well it will go down if you just take it upon yourself to be a regular visitor when she is at college.
Would you be there otherwise, or would it solely be for the purpose of seeing her?
If she is not communicating with you, then that is her choice, and you cannot force her to do so ~ just turning up at her college might be very awkward ~ for both of you.
You know her, and the situation, better than I do, so you may be able to judge it better, yourself ~ but just think about it.
Good luck!
