PDM has shared a lot of great advice here.
Really a key is that your husband feels neglected. Telling him "you have no right to feel neglected" - as justified as it may feel - will not solve the problem.
Parents can sometimes portion out all their time to their kids and not leave any for each other - which is not the way to demonstrate a healthy family TO the kids. The kids need to grow up learning how spouses treat each other. That modeling of proper behavior is just as important as is the time spent on the kids.
Maybe a counselor can help with some of this?
