RomanceClass.com Forums Romance Breaking Up OH HELP PLESE!!!

K guys i have have good news, and bad news.

Since i cant just ask which news want first, I'll start with the good news.

The good news is, we anit breaking up. We are a little closer than we were before.

The bad news, she's not ready to keep a strong promise. I didn't want to pressure her any more than she was when she the ring on her finger. She was uncomfortable i could tell. The night was going fine until the promise ring was brought here. We talked about it, and i took the ring back on her request.

PDM, i should have listen to you. I should have made it a hope ring. Instead i went my own way, hoping for the better. now i type here with a heavy heart.

Hope you all are having a good saturday.

HiLee ~

She might not have accepted a ring anyway.
Rings have asscociations.
Anyway, you are still together and you have discussed a few things, which is very good.

Maybe a different gift ~ just to remember you by and keep you close while you are apart??
Different jewellery?
A cuddly toy to hug if she is feeling homesick?? That might be perfect.

Hey guys. things are looking uo for me and my girl. Thx or the help yall. Let's hope i won't have to bring this thing ever again.

I hope things carry on going well.
Take care and good luck!

yeah, if you freak out and try to make everything perfect, things are just gonna go down the drain...(happens to me alot)

keep a cool head in front of the monster and everything will turn out fine. if she's not satisfied, tell her you did the best you could and to be happy that you have each other.

or maybe you guys just aren't right for each other....but let's hope that's not the case cus' you sound like a really sweet couple, and there isn't many left.

On my god. it's happening today. I think im breaking up with her today.

Thres just been to much for our realtionship, it must before i do something stupid.

Hello Lee,
Please try to calm down and think objectively.

What has happened ~ and what 'stupid' things are you thinking about?

Remember, things change over time. There are good times and bad times. The bad times may be rough, but then the good times help you to cope with them.

Think positive if you can.

Are you OK?

To tell the truth. I have no idea what stupid things im talking about.

No i am not ok. well than again i am now. i went to her house to actully do the break up today, cause things hasn't been well for the past few weeks. So i went ahead. Anyway she wasn't awake yet.So i was talking to her about the whole thing. just to make sure i was doing the right thing. And i was, but they almost sent me off the deepend today. They said i made her feel trapped and she wanted to break up with me months ago. Anyway, she finally came down, and had her breakfast(bolw of cereal) at like 2pm. So then we talked, i cried a little bit. We comprimised the whole thing, then she gave me my b-day gift. It wasn't finished so she wouldn't give it to me until it was done. Anyway during the conversation, she said i didn't make her trapped but somewhere along those lines, and she did want to break up with me. She could have told me back then, instead she left me in the dark, making me think everything was alright. We worked things out though, we are still friends, we just couldn't continue they we were.

I am so sorry to hear about how things turned out. It does show you that if you had had an ernest conversation with her months ago, she might have opened up and told you how she felt. Perhaps she thought you were to fragile to take the news. If you want your future girlfriends to be open, try to create an atmosphere that allows for frank honest conversation about your relationship. Try to gauge how she is feeling and proceed at a pace that is comfortable for you both. Haveing said that, Perhaps you should create a new topic to keep us informed on how you are doing. I saw this one and thought someone was in a critical situation. That way we know just exactly what kind of help you need. Good Luck, and keep us posted on how you are doing. We are here to talk.

ok i will do that. thx