hey. I like this girl for approx 4 years now. But in the past recent months things have started to change. We we're never close to begin with or did we hang out a lot in the past. We recently started talking more and hanging out more since Oct - Dec 2010. She's was in a relationship for about a year, her boyfriend wasn't in the same city and she was basically in a long distance relationship. She would tell me things like how her relationship is poison and how he doesn't treat her right. He would basically have to break up with her if and she couldn't break up with him and how she wouldn't think about him or else she would feel depressed. So that being said.. everything starts to change from here on.
It was about October and we started hanging out more, but when we would hang out I feel that we aren't friends. I have already come to terms I really care about her and like her a lot. She on the other had I have never told her how I have felt and have kept it in the dark for quite sometime. But when i hang out with her, She always acts cute and smiles. We went out for lunch a cpl of times that month. But there was a break in between where i didn't speak to her for almost 1.5 weeks. But the following week i texted her and said " =( " and she asked " whats wrong ? " and basically i just stated we haven't seen or spoke in a while. She immediately calls me and asks if i want to have dinner with her. So during dinner we would talk and I basically just admitted i missed her and I've been wondering what she has been doing... Well she replied the same way.
Then in November, we had lunch and i had asked her to basically come drink with my friends. She said she would come and we spent the whole night drinking. I admit I was pretty intoxicated but I didn't do anything overboard. I simple drove her home when i was able to and said good night. But i also mentioned im still going to hang out with my friends. Once I dropped her off she gave me a hug and said goodnight. I waited until she went inside before i started to drive off. She texted me good night and asked if i was still going out to meet my friends. While i was home i decided to call her. This is when she confronted me about my feelings for her. She asked if i had feelings for her and i said yes. She told me that she always knew i liked her and she always felt that i have been avoiding my feelings for her. She told me she doesn't feel the same way. But I said i understand because shes in a relationship and she cant say or do anything. So after all that..she told me she trusts me, that she hides how she feels around her other friends but when shes with me she lets me see that shes sad or unhappy. She basically told me i remind her of her first boyfriend and when it comes to hanging out with her sometimes in the past she told me she didn't want to because she knew i liked her. She told me once she broke up with her first boyfriend if i had asked her out she would of said no.. and that she always thought i was a player. She also brought up the first day we hung out. There was a lot of awww's and things in between our conversation. Then she asked me to have breakfast with her if we were able to wake up early, we spoke for about 3 hrs on the phone. That was the end of that night. The next couple of days she basically kept texting me. I didn't text her at all... she would be the first to text in the mornings and throughout the night. I called her saturday night but she didnt pick up. But she woke up from her nap around 1 in the morning she texted me and asked if i wanted to speak to her. So we spoke for an hour before calling it a night.
So after all this i noticed there had been alot of changes...
We consistently spoke throughout the weekend even her sending me a text msg on a sunday morning saying she had a dream about me. I didnt understand what was going on I was really confused. Well being me and caring on the following Monday she asked me to visit her at work. So I drove down and hung out with her at work until she got off. She asked me to come over to hangout and meet her dog. lol? So i did. While we were hanging out I tried to see if her room is messy or at least try to go into it. She blocked the door standing in between and we flirted little and I put my arms around her waist. She continued walking towards the living room but didn't remove my arms as they were secured and I sat on the couch and pulled her on top of me. She got off and didn't say anything. We just acted normal after and continued talking and hanging out. She told me it was about time she was gonna sleep so before i left I grabbed and gave her a hug. This hug was long approx 1 - 2 mins long with her rubbing my back. She told me i made her happy by visiting her at work. I was beyond confused at this point.. i dunno whether i should be or i shouldn't. I felt after that night she has feelings and i was unsure. Anyway as this LONG story goes on. I had made plans with her last Saturday and she had canceled. She asked if i was free on Sunday instead because she had to run errands and she was busy. I Wasn't angry or pissed. I said sure yea Sundays fine. But through out the whole night she and i would keep texting. During the night she asked if i ate yet, and i responded no ( I was actually drinking for UFC ) She replies " nvm i wanted to ditch my friends but could'nt, they got annoying ". But starts updating me on things shes doing and where. She starts making plans for Sunday on what time to meet her and what shes doing and tells me she can meet me downtown after shes done her haircut.
She broke up with her boyfriend... for about 1 1/2 months. So mid DEC to Jan 2011. She texted me and told me she wanted to experience my cooking... and i said i suck at cooking and she said she would be happy if i cooked her instant noodles.
Sunday comes along and She sends the first text in the morning. I knew she wasnt feeling well from the night before so i asked her how she was feeling. I basically kept texting her until 3pm when we were going to meet up. I called her at around 2 30 to briefly speak to her and ask where i should meet her. After that phone i call i noticed it was raining. So i texted her and asked her if she brought an umbrella because if she didnt bring one. i'd bring one so she wouldnt get sick. I finally met up with her around 4 pm. She had her umbrella out and when she saw me she put it away and stood under mine. We smiled at each other and walked really close we were bumping into each others shoulders quite often. Since she got a haircut i complemented her on it and etc.. and she just smiled at me started acting cute using her cute voice. Our hands would bump but i didn't feel its right to grab it so soon. Instead I would put one arm from behind around her waist and do that consistently sometimes using it to pull her close. She didn't stop me but continued being cute and smiling. We always make eye contact. Sometimes we even stare. So as the day progresses we decided to walk around after we got something to eat. While we on the train i decided to test her comfort ability with me. She was using both hands to hold on to the railings and i removed them to hold her hands so she could lean back. She smiled at me and didn't let go. I did it for a brief moment, to test the waters. But later in the evening the day was about over because she had to go to a family dinner. I waited at the bus stop with her since it was a pretty bad area in the city I decided to escort her to her destination. While we were waiting for the bus. I noticed it was a good time to test the hands again. It was quite cold so I told her my hands were numb and i asked her how she is able to hold my umbrella with her one hand... with out it getting cold. I then put both of my hands on her cheeks and she would tell me my hands are quite warm. So i said how about your hands ? so i put both my hands on her one hand holding my umbrella and she didn't hesitate to move them or tell me to stop. She let me keep my hand there and eventually i just left one hand. But again I didn't do it for to long. I told her after yea i like her and she just said she knows but she said its not gonna change anything because doesnt change anything, and she doesn't want to be a in a relationship right now. But when she looked at me and said that i didn't really buy it.. We got on the bus and i took her to her family dinner and left. We talked and texted thoughout the night.
i apologize for the long long most likely confusing story...
My question is... Does this girl like me ? and want to pursue a relationship when she feels her break up time has passed. What i generally feel is that shes not pushing me away or lay down any boundaries. But she just needs time.
