RomanceClass.com Forums Romance Does He/She Like Me? 'Love Will Ensue'

I'm going to see 'Music & Lyrics' in a couple of days, so had a look at the 'Christianity Today' review (I was surprised that they did such a thing, actually.) This is from the article: [i]'it is the romantic elements of the movie that are its weakest link. Grant and Barrymore are completely believable as a creative team, but the romantic development seems arbitrary—or, more accurately, obligatory. .. 'The script seems to rely on the assumption that if you put two likable people in a room together for long enough, love will ensue. Such a premise is not offensive; it's just not particularly convincing.'[/i] What do you think? [i]'if you put two likable [[i]or 'likeable' as I might spell it[/i]] people in a room together for long enough', will love ensue?[/i] http://www.christianitytoday.com/movies/reviews/2007/musicandlyrics.html Here's the IMDB page: http://imdb.com/title/tt0758766/

The question is akin to that of a couple stranded/trapped on an island with no forseeable hope of rescue.

It seems to me, that with no choice about the person available for interpersonal dialogue, the results could range from love through hate. Desire for mutual amicability rather than hostility would logically call for attempts at courtesy and compromise.

Nonetheless, love would remain only a possibility, I would think.

Of course, if one thinks of love as an action (verb rather than noun), then perhaps the "feeling" of love could result. Seems to me that even then, however, the ultimate "success" would depend on a mutual effort.

Well - 2 likeable people might not equate to those 2 people forming a special bond or connection - platonic or romantic. We each have our own preferences about who we choose as friends as well as partners. Actually, it's not even a choice most of the time - it's just chemistry.

But - if you do find yourself with somebody of your sexual orientation - and you find chemistry as a friend, does that mean that given enough time you will find enough chemistry as a partner?
In other words, can you remain platonic indefinitely if you feel a connection? I say usually not.

I think you're quite right, Victor. Unfortunately, sometimes you might wish you could step back to where you were, but find yourself unable to regain the platonic level.

How true, how true! That is called "Live and learn!"

I never did get to see 'Music & Lyrics' ~ but I'm going to transfer this thread to the 'Romance' section.

Any more thoughts on this?

I disagree with it. I think we love other people for who they are not their geological location. We appreciate them because we share similar values, so if you would put two people with opposite values (or opposing ones) they would not unite.
Also I think personality type is important, I'm reading a book (the relationship cure or something like that) and if the person tends to have a personality of ignoring or turning against and conflicting with the other person, it won't work out.
Lastly love is a choice and "love will ensue" seems more like a universal or not a choice:(

It does often happen though ~ I've read about it happening in the police force where a male and a female officer are working closely together for long periods.