I agree with Joandboys.
Here are a few of my own complementary thoughts
Passion is related to fire and to love.
Adolescents & young adults are all geared up for love & passion ~ it's in their hormones ~ I'm assuming that you are in this group??
Often they fall in love with the idea of love.
They will fall in love with actors and pop stars and school sporting stars
They will fall in love with people who are good looking, but whom they don't even know.
They fall in love with a dream person ~ a person who exists, really, only in their own imagination.
You feel fiery passion when you start dating.
At this stage, your girlfirend is on a par with a pop star.
She's attractive; you have woven a web of assumption around her; you don't really know her.
Then you truly get to know her and she is not your dream girl.
She is just another human being.
You lose interest.
And, if you indulge in sexual activity too early in the relationship, then this is probably even more likely to happen.
There's no more challenge.
Nothing to look forward to.
Too easy a conquest.
'I would compare it to something like this...you try so hard to get something and you successfully get it. But then once you have it, there is nothing.'
Yes, I can understand this ~ and I think that it is probably quite common.
There are other threads on here about girls & boys who have started dating the person they always wanted, only to find that they don't want that person any more.
It may be that some people just like the chase. The thrill of it. Winning the prize.
However, there is also the fact that they are chasing a dream.
One day, you will meet a girl you truly love, and trust and respect.
She will love, trust and respect you.
You will be each other's best friend, as well as lovers.
The fire won't go out then.
It may change, from blazing flames, to a gentle glow, but it will last.
As Joandboys says, look for friendship.
Look for intellectual compatibiliy.
Don't get involved physically unless and until you feel something more than the thrill of the chase.
You say that the girl you are currently talking to is amazing and perfect.
Remember, no-one is perfect.
You are sertting yourself and her up to fail if you are expecting perfection and eternal fire.
You get on well together now.
Maybe it will last; maybe it won't.
Think of affection, respect, friendship and trust.
Welcome to the forum, Brent ~ and good luck.
