Women are fickle, men will never figure them out. If you really want her, you must accept this female quality and learn to live with it. If you really want her, you must invest time and energy into the relationship. Don't try to "figure it out" because that rarely works. If you want it, fight for it; if she accepts, WOO-HOO, if she doesn't, move on. Life is for the living, it is not supposed to be a burden.