It may be that he is angry at the situation, rather than at you. He may feel frustrated, lost, confused, impotent, etc. That is a difficult situation for a husband to be in.
Try reading some of the books on behaviour within relationships ~ eg the 'Venus and Mars' books. They really can be eye-openers and I believe that they can help couples to communicate better and increase harmony. They helped me to be better at communicating and comprehending. They are probably available in libraries.
http://home.marsvenus.com/I feel sad that the ideas that you have developed ~ partly on here ~ are causing you pain.
