Well, Amaggiepie, everyone has had so many great things to say, looks like I'm not needed. But thanks for valuing my advice.
Myself, I see nothing wrong with just the 3 of you and a cake for her to get messy with (and pics, of course). Maybe a friend can take the photos.
The print-out is a good suggestion. Chances are, as has been said, she won't follow your advice. But later, she may look back and be grateful that you tried to give her the benefit of your experience, and that you loved her enough to want her to avoid what you went through.
But the good thing is that our paths can start in a new direction at any time in our life. You made the move.
Someone recently told me that they admired the maturity you show on here.
