Yes, you can choose who you love. That is why they give you a brain as well as genetalia. When you first saw her and heard about her reputation, you were using your brain and it told you that you would not want to be with someone who had slept with so many men that she was referred to as a "slut". If you had not gotten to know her and learned about other qualities she had then you would probably have passed on a relationship, based on her low moral code.
You did get to know she had other qualities, however. These qualities showed you another side that cause you to be attracted. You acted on your attraction and went one step further, and had sex. Unfortunately, for some young men who have not been in many commited relationships, sex is the binding factor that bonds them to their partner.
That is as it should be and what sex was intended to do in the first place. What you are failing to see, because you are too close is that she does not view sex in the same way you do.
She has been free with it and it means no more than a kiss to her.
The reality is that you were probably being tested for the quality of "kiss" you could give when she visited you. She has decided that you did not meet her standards.
That does not mean that you were not a good lover, it simply means that she is probably basing her judgement of a good relationship on sex and has "many" to choose from. She no doubt is looking for the ultimate experience and will continue to do so whether she is in a relationship with you or not.
What she is looking for has nothing to do with love or committment.
If you continue to persue her, you may convince her to be briefly involved and she may stay with you for a while enjoying sincere side of love. Eventually, she will break your heart and cheat on you and humiliate you and leave you even more miserable than you are now.
Cut your losses while you can and realize that you are obsessing on her for only a "part" of what you want.
You want someone you can love and who will love you and respect you and who you can introduce to your mother with pride. You do not want someone who, every guy you know snickers about behind your back.
If you doubt what I am telling you, ask around the local hang outs where she lives. If I am right, you will find more than enough guys that will fill you in on just how popular she is.
