He doesn't want the babyWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female I am 38 yrs old and 6 weeks pregnant. I have been with the father for 1.5 yrs. I had a misscarriage about 4 months ago and "J" was very cool about me keeping the baby. This pregnancy really was an accident and now "J" is basically threatening me about the status of our relationship and what the future would entail if I keep the baby. After the miscarriage I caught "J" cheating on me but we are working it out and everything is great. The relationship has never been better. Either way I feel at this age it is immoral to even consider abortion. Joe and I have very good incomes and are almost 40 yrs old. He said it just doesnt feel right this time. I think he is immature and irresponsible. Just looking for another opinion since I will not discuss my pregnancy with anyone. Thanks for the great website!!! User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Children come first I have a daughter from a previous relationship. When my husband and I got pregnant with our daughter he reacted the same as you discribe although for different reasons. I had just started college and I worked full-time. Not to mention him and my oldest at home. Anyway, I can't give you advice on what you should do but I let him rant, rave, scream, and curse for about 20 minutes. After that I got his attention and told him that if he truely didn't want our baby that we would move. I wouldn't inflict us upon him if he didn't want us. (The baby, my oldest, and me.) He sobered right up and knew. Of course he always referred to it as the baby not our baby. Until he saw her move in the ultrasound. I don't know if this helps but know that no matter what you and your children come first. If marraige counselling helps by all means get it. Good luck. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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