I am 28 years old and 5 mths pregnant. My boyfriend is 18 yrs old and he decided earlier this week to leave meWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I am 28 years old and 5 mths pregnant. My boyfriend is 18 yrs old and he decided earlier this week to leave me. He had been living with me and I told him that we shouldn't live together until he could afford to pay half the bills. He only works like 20 hrs a week and makes very little money. I told him that he should get a better job so we could live together and so that he could help take care of this baby. (I also have two other children and he has none). He said that I stressed him out, drove him to the ground, and that he just couldn't take it anymore. He moved back home with his mom and goes out and gets drunk everynight. He says that he wants to be part of the baby's life but, that he just doesn't want to be with me. We had been talking about marriage and he had even got me an engagement ring but, hadn't given it to me yet. What happened? How could he up and just leave me 5 mths pregnant? He said that he still thinks about me all the time and cries and that he still loves....but, he won't come back to me. Why is he torturing himself and me this way? He says that I don't need him and that I am better off without him. Please help! Thanks. User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Visit the child WHAT COULD YOU REALLY EXPECT? HE'S STILL A CHILD EMOTIONALLY. AT THAT AGE THEY SAY ONE THING BECAUSE IT'S ROMANTIC AND IT IS EASY IN THEORY AND REALITY HITS! BYE BYE! AS A MOTHER OF TWO YOU SHOULD HAVE HAD MORE SENSE, THIS IS DOWN TO YOU! YOUR BODY YOUR DECISION. NOT THAT THIS DOESN'T MAKE HIM AN UTTER TWAT! I TRUELY WISH YOU WELL AND SEND YOU LOVE. MAYBE ADOPTION WOULD BE AN IDEA BUT I IMAGINE YOU WILL WANT IT BECAUSE THIS IS A BEAUTIFUL CHILD. JUST HOPE IF HE DOES'T LIVE WITH YOU, THAT HE WILL TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD, BEING YOUNG DOES NOT MEAN HE WONT VISIT THE CHILD. GOOD LUCK. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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