He Wants to be Friends - I Can't Do ThatWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female Hello, To make a long story short. I broke up with a guy who I was dating for a year. He insists we should remain friends. I've told him many times that I can't be his friend because I'm in love with him. (the reasons for the breakup and even our relationship are complicated and it will take a longer email to explain). I really need to get over him but he's not making easy for me. To the best of my knowledge I know he does not love me the way I love him. I know if I keep contact with him I'm not going to heal anytime soon. I have explain everything to him with no reserve and he still wants to be my friend. Our realtionship has no future. What can I do? I need some help...I need to move on. I need to get him out of my head and heart. User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female painful my advice is, if your are not ready to be his friend yet don't pressure yourself or make it feel as though it is your responsible to do so just to please him. remember that it is not doing good for you and the only one benefitting for this is him. i'm in the same situation myself. just think, your are filled with hurt, your upset and feel betrayed. for once make tourself happy. focus on your needs and forget about his for now. reality is you dont need to focus on him since he is not focusing on yours that you aren't ready to be friends yet. better yet don't be friends anytime soon, it will be painfull like a mother but you'll see that you did yourself well. best of luck The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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