I'm Living with my Boyfriend - and Want to Date my CoworkerWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I like this guy at work, but there are problems. I have a long term relationship and I think he does too. The feelings I have for this man are causing problems in my relationship. I have been sleeping in the spare room for over a month now and dont want my boyfriend to touch me. I think about this man at work constantly and feel the need to approach him somehow but dont know how to! I know that he likes me and have confirmed it through your flirting section! I have never had problems approaching men before but I dont think I would handle it very well if he did not want to know. User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female Trust issues My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years recently cheated on me with a coworker. It hurt me badly and it went on for about 5 months. He left and came back after one month only to hurt me again by continuing to see her. We are now trying to work things out and move on. He hasn't seen or talked to her in 2 months. He was lying to her as well as me and I am sure she is as hurt as I was back then. My advice to you is simple. Think about all parties involved before making any moves. I didn't deserve what happened to me and I am sure his g/f doesn't either or your b/f for that matter. There are other ways of breaking things off with him if it isn't working out. Cheating is NOT one of those ways. Even after 2 months of knowing he isn't with her, I am still battling with trust issues and the pain that I felt for so many months. Men usually cheat because someone gives them affection and attention. Are you that person? Just remember, what comes around, goes around. You will get hurt. Even if it's just your own guilt that ends up hurting you, it's not worth it. If you are not happy in your current relationship, get out and find happiness within yourself before jumping into a relationship that will affect someone else's life, (his girlfriend's). The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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