My Best Friend is Dating my ExWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female I still have very strong feelings for my ex. And my best friend is very much aware of the fact. When I found out that my ex was interested in her, I was crushed. Luckily, my best friend assured me she would never date him. 2 weeks later, she is. They've been a couple for close to a month now. What I don't understand is how she could do this to me. We fight all the time now and our friendship is ruined. My trust for her, along with my heart, is shattered. I feel used, betrayed, and lied to. It kills me to see them together. It would hurt to see him with another girl period. But my very own best friend...that's worse. Much worse. But the situation gets even MORE complicated. My OTHER best friend ALSO has feelings for this guy. So all 3 of us are after him. Unforunately, this other girl has no idea I still like the guy. So she talks about him constantly, her and my ex are even best friends and have been for years, so I don't say a thing because I don't want our friendship to be ruined just like me and my best friend's is, and I also don't want to ruin her and my ex's close relationship... So what I'm asking is this-Is there anyway out of this love triangle? It's amazing how a guy could get inbetween us all. But somehow, he is. My best friend is blaming this all on me, telling me to get over it and let her be happy. I wish I could. Thank you! User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Walk away slowly Hey girl! Frens can become enemy n enemy can become frens. Everythin happens at your own entire faults! Firstly, ask urself?! Why did u show-off too much of ur ex to ur best frens that they end up liking him and he end up liking them too?? You know wut, i wont advice you to look at it as a love triangle anymore. Look at it as some kinda blessing in disguise that u found out ur best's fren real character. If u don wanna ruin THEIR frenship, then u walk away slowly from them. they wil still b frens, but u move on n look for new frens. Go n join a cool dance class! You will b with a bunch of cool people but then this time round, if u get a new b/f, please please please dont let that guy befriend to any of ur female fren. Jus introduce him to them, dats it! Dont give them a chance to get-to-know one another, don talk to him about them and don talk to them about him. Keep low-profile of ur newly found guy. And most important keep his contact no. only to urself. nEVEr ever let it slip to ur female's fren's hand, alrite! The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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