Why have I heard nothing now?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female Hello. I wrote in before under should I see him when I am there under the I want my ex back advice. George gave some great advice that was what I needed to hear from an unbiased party. My friends had some other advice, that to me seemed like they just were very upset I have been hurt by him. Yours was very good. My problem right now is I agreed with what you said in seeing him when I am in town for business for closure or to see where we stand. The last contact I had with him was after he text messaged me December 13, saying we might get to get together in January when I am there. He also said he was going away to see his girlfriend over the holidays, and wished me a great holiday season. I sent him along with other friends a holiday email wishing them a Merry Christmas. This was the week of Christmas. No reply from him. I assumed he was still with her as she is in college and I fiqured she had a long winter break. Then last week I emailed just him saying I hope he had a great new year, also asking if he still wanted to meet for dinner when I am there. Still no response. Now I think he has to be home from visiting her in another state,why have I heard nothing now? My question is what should I do? Send him another email when my visit becomes closer? Should I back off? After all it was him he contacted me first after our breakup saying he missed my company. I just don't want to look like a stalker or something, but I really need to see him. I event hough about just sending him an email stating if you want to meet for dinner meet me in the hotel lobby at 5. Then just going down to see if he came. I thought this would give him time to decide. I have told myself that this trip will be an answer to my questions. If he comes to see me then I know he still cares and wants to discuss what happened. If he doesn't I have decided to totally move on with my life and not look back, as hard as it may be. I can't keep playing into his games of seeing and talking to him on his terms and when it is convienient for him. And I can't live in some grey area where I am not sure how he feels. Does this sound like a reasonable decision I have made, and second when should I email him before I go and what should I say? Thanks for your help in my matter. You gave great advice before and I am looking forward to your response again. User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Male Prepare to move on The best thing you can do is back off. i know it hurts, but he will be wondering about you soon enough. He knows that your there. Now let him come to you. I drive my ex crazy when I don't return his call. This puts me in the power seat. This is a great site, and you should read all contributions posted. they are very helpful. Also, prepare to move on or you will only prolong your pain. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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