We crossed the line and realized we love each otherWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female I'm unhappily married and in the process of divorce. I've been cheating with a married man for over 2 years (he has been married for 17years). I have realized that my marriage will not change and continues to be unhappy, verbally abusive at times physically abusive the last 5 years and on and off of the total 11 years of marriage. I have a small child and feel this is the right move for everyone involved. The marriaed man I currently see also feels his marriage cannot be salvaged but stays because his daughter has only two years left of high school. He also believes that staying provides more stability for his daughter and it's the only reason he stays. We started as friends waiting over six months before anything happened deciding on friends with benefits. Before either of us knew it we crossed the line and realize we love each other. Neither of us want to admit it because we feel it cannot be, we are married. I have tried to stop but some how we still continue. It doesn't help we have a mutual friend which knows we are seeing each other. Our friend doesn't endorse it but feels we are soulmates. Do I completely forget about this man or continue for two years and see where fate takes us? Troubled User Submitted Advice from a 31-40 year old Female Stop the affair I seriously cannot believe you are advising this woman to continue having an affair. How can either of these people EVER trust the other? And what about all the other people who, whether they know it or not, are involved? Do they not matter at all? Here's how you stop an affair: you STOP. You stop seeing the person. If possible, you make it so that you don't ever come in contact with him at all. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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