I cheated on my boyfriend, any hope on getting him back



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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I was with my ex-boyfriend for almost 2 yrs. (lets call my ex Bob and the other guy Lou) Bob was away doing work and had been gone for awhile.
The story
It all started one night that I went out with friends to a bar and saw a guy (Lou) that I meet there a few weeks earlier. My friends, Lou, and I were having a good time and he asked to dance. While we were dancing he kissed me. I stopped him and told him I had a boyfriend who I loved every much. I left the bar right then and call Bob and told him what happened. He told me he was not mad or anything because he trusted me. Well I went back to the same bar the next weekend. Lou was there and I told him that he was out of line and should have never kissed me. some how he got my phone number and started calling me. He was a cool guy to talk to but nothing more. Bob ended up coming home and Lou called me one night I was with him. He though there was something wrong with that. Bob told me the only thing Lou wanted from me was ass. I didn.t believe him. Lou and I stop talking for awhile. Then maybe 3 weeks later he called. I went and hung out with him without telling bob. I thought nothing of it. On night bob and I got into a fight and I was mad so I went to Lou's house. Well one thing lead to another and I cheated on Bob. I finally told bob that i went to lou's house and he was mad. But he still trusted me. I never knew how to tell him I cheated on him. Well finally he found out and I confussed. When he found out is the day that I was going to tell him. Bob was/ is the love of my life and made me so happy. I want him back. I told him sorry over and over but I ruined it. Bob called me the first time the other day and didn't know if he wanted to be me or not. If our love was strong before this happened do you think we will have a chance again even though the trust is gone?
*help*




User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Male
Say sorry


He still wants to be with you if he called you that means he still thinks about you you should not even have talked to this "LOU" on the phone because you can not help your feelings i know you did this out of anger probably but now you are stuck and you need help MY SUGGESTION is if he calls back or you call him and tell him again that you are sorry if that doesent work just tell him like "I know i messed up and im sorry i love you you are them one i wanna be with i was just soo mad that i just thought i could get you back for that" Now if he does not go for that then tell him this "Okay look i said i was sorry and if you cant accept that then whatever" You dont need to spin your life sad because of what you did you are only human and you mess up at least you relize you messed up and if he doesent respect that then you need to move on i know its hard but you can do anything you put your mind too..........NATE im 17 by the way trust me im smart lol

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