Break up because he needs space or no?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female Me and my ex boyfreind were together for like 8 months...but we were "talking" and kind of together for months before that. I moved up to where he went to college to go to college wit him. We argued every once in a while but nothing too serious. Over spring break he decided we should spend time with our freinds, but we werent breaking up. Well over spring break he called me and asked me to hang out..and I also Kind of maybe bugged him a little bit because I missed him. He was still the one who called me to go over to his house though. We still slept together and what not. We broke up at the end of spring break but t2 days after he called me again and I went over. After that we acted like we were back together and we continued to sleep together and he kept calling me. Now he decided he wants to "break up" again b/c he says he needs some space. He first told me it was probably for good but then he later said its too early to tell. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell me what yall think will happen, and if you think we will be back togehter. We were eachothers first and only loves so far... THANKS User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Stop talking Im in a similar situation. Except that we werent eachother's first and we broke up druing xmas break because "of the arguments" we had. They were nothing serious but aparently they added up to him. Before me he had been single and messing around for a little over a year. and prior to that he had been a bad realtionship for about 4 years. I felt/feel like crap because he said that he really did love me and he hadnt felt this way towards no one before. But then now 4 months later we have been broken up and oficially stopped hanging out and all that for over a month. I still speak to him but i get upset that after this long he isnt back. The truth is that i realized he ISNT going to come back as long as IM STILL there! So ask ur self, are u still speakin to him daily? does he have control over when you guys talk and hang out?? If so U NEED TO STOP TALKING TO HIM, U NEED TO SHOW HIM WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE WITHOUT U IN HIS LIFE. HOW IS HE SUPPOSE TO SEE THIS IF UR STILL THERE? If u guys had an overall good relationship and u were good to him then he should be back. Dont sit around and wait for him though, because its the mistake i made these past 4 months and thats why i havent been able to truly get over it. Expect nothing but hope for the best. If u expect nothing, u have nothing to lose. and as it is already, u have nothing to lose because u already lost the relationship. Now its up to him to realize he is losing.. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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