I Broke his Trust - He LeftWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and a half. When we first started dating he would never let me see my friends and one time I lied to him and went out behind his back. He found out and ever since then he won't trust me. Just today my sister brought up the past and he broke up with me. He has been acting really distant lately and I think that was his hole to get out of the relationship. We really do love eachother and talk about marriage but every so often he gets really mad. But he broke up with me this time and gave me back the nice watch I got for him and wont' even talk to me. I want him back but I don't know what to say or do to make him realize how much I love him. He won't even sit down and talk to me about it so it's really hard. And I don't want him to go out this weekend with his friends because he might be around other girls. Please help. User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female First of all, your boyfriend doesn't have to "let" you see your friends. If you want to see your friends, you should go see him. He is not your keeper, you cannot allow him to control your personal life. You should not have lied to him about seeing your friends though, you should have told him the truth, and done what you wanted. If he gave you back a gift you had given him, he was obviously just trying to hurt you. You also show signs of insecurity. Why can't he go out where other girls are? Shouldn't he be allowed to have a social life, afterall, you are upset that he took away yours. My advice to you is to stay away from him. There is nothing you can do to make him realize how much you love him. He can only realize on his own. Move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea. And I'm sure you could find one, that loves you more than you have ever imagined. One that is enthusiastic about you being with your friends, and finally one who you can allow to have a social life. Love is not about possessing, it is about giving. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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