How do I let him know I'm still worth it?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female My ex and I have been broke up for 8 months now. He was sleeping with this older woman and finally broke things off with her. He started being all sweet and flirty with me again. We've been talking a little and hanging out some, just keeping things friendly (but still a little flirty). I know he's still going to talk to other girls, I've been going out with other guys (I don't think he knows that though). I know he's at least going to talk to them, ya know. Ultimately I want him back. I want to marry him. I've only gone out with these guys, nothing more, because he means too much to me, but I am at least trying. Here's what has set me off: yesterday he's flirty with me again and even sits with me at church. Then asks if I want to play v-ball later and that he'll call me. Well, he calls me later and says he and his two daughters are going out to the court to play even if no one shows up to play ball, that I should come out anyway. Well, I went. Right after I get there the woman he was sleeping with showed up. she's evil. Well, she's being all sweet and smiley at me and asking how I was. I was polite and very nice. Then she takes off to sit on a bench by herself back off away from where we are. (it's me, my ex, his 2 girls and their cousin) Well, he starts trying to figure out where she's at, if she left, then locates where she's sitting and takes off up there too. He stayed up there for and hour and a half. They weren't close or touching, just talking. I don't know if she just showed up or if he asked her to come. Either way, she was there and obviously they still talk for her to know where he is. bottom line, he always chooses to hurt me over anyone else. I'm tired of it. I've been the supporter, the encourager, the friend and the forgiver. I'm worth more than how he has treated me. I feel like he's completely taken for granted how much I care about him and his daughters. I feel like he thinks if he has to hurt someone that it should be me because I've always forgiven him before and I'm always there. What would it do if I just confronted him about how I felt, how he's been treating me and that I'm not always going to be there for him? Am I jumping the gun on ending the friendship I've been working so hard to gain back? What should I do? I feel completely crazy and I'm wondering if I should just give it a little longer for him to notice that I am worth it. So much of me knows that he does care about me, that he just doesn't have a clue what he wants. You have to help me with this. I don't know what else to do. I've stayed away and let him make all the contact, I've been the friend and let him cry, and I've been the strong one in situations like the one stated above. What do you think he expects of me? User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Look to God Girl, have some self respect. I know that you think your'e being the wondeful ex girlfriend and thinking that it means he is going to see how wonderful you are and change his mind about you and your "relationship". But all he is seeing is the doormat ex girlfriend who he can have when he wants. He is treating you bad because you are letting him. If more women stood up for themselves instead of taking this crap from men then there wouldn't be as many men who think they can take advantage. You sound like a lovely smart girl so stop acting like a fool. Tell him to shove it and walk away knowing that you can and will find someone who knows your worth. When he comes back, don't take him. It's hard but how are you going to find someone great if you remain blind. Join a church group, look to God because he knows what is good for you. Pray that you will find someone great. Then believe it. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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