how do i get my exboyfriend back?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female ive been with my ex for 3 years and 4 months before he broke up with me. i love him so much and i really want him back but i dont know where to start. ive tried to sort out problems by trying to sit him down and talk to him but he just keep avoiding it. he says he still cares about me but dont think he loves me anymore, and thats after he told me 18 months ago that he really wanted to marry me and wish he did. i just dont know what to do to get him back. its just hurts so much and it still hurts after 1 month. i miss and love him so much but dont know how to go about telling him without him running away from me. User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female Let him go We live in a cause and effect world. There is a valid reason for this, and not knowing it is causing your grief. It's most likely something that happened recently in your relationship, a history of fighting, lack of sex, neediness, clinginess, or something negative. You were there. Subconsciously you probably know what it was. Once he makes the decision to break up with you and the relationship trust is broken, that line of communication is closed, and the more you try to re-open it the needier and clingier you get to him, which drives him even further away. It could have been something beyond your control like the underwear model at Macy's deciding in favor of a quickie with your boyfriend that turned into more, but it's most likely something that happened between the two of you, even something as simple as your getting a job and not being able to spend as much time with him. Most men will not walk away from a good relationship unless they have a better one waiting in the wings. So my advice to you: Cry it out and LET HIM GO! You're too young to be off the market. A woman looks as good as she's ever going to look between the ages of 20 and 25, and you have a hundred guys and 5 serious boyfriends left to date before you settle down and marry. Please don't make the "marry just after high school" mistake. You'll end up a single mom in another three years and NOBODY wants to date a 23 year old with someone else's kids. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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