I kept telling him that I was going to leave,but never didWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female I wrote before regarding my reationship with an older man while I have been married.He does not have any children and he is not married.He told me that we couldnt see each other anymore because he was feeling guilty and I think he wants me to leave my husband.I kept telling him that I was going to leave,but never did.I have not heard from him in almost two months.I have written him letters but he has not responded.It is like I have disappeared from his life.I love this man so much and I just dont know what to do. User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Male I sit and wait Speaking from a man that is in love with a woman that is married and has children. She told me that she would leave him, however she hasn't. He found out about us and its been so hard on us. Let me explain, they have been married 17yrs and he has become very abusive to her. I came along and saw a woman I loved. Yes when I asked her to leave him, I made all the right moves, got a job and bought a house in the childrens school area where they wouldn't be displaced from there friends or school or even there father. But, when it came time she couldn't leave, so we talked and talked for two month and then I finally said, "you need to give yourself space and time to try and work it out with your family, espicially your husband.. Seek counsling and give me a call in six month and let me know your decision, I won't be going anywhere". And I mean it, for if you do love someone what is six month in life. That means "NO CONTACT", it means I go on with my profeessional live and pursue my other dreams as to a learning new things. I truly love her and yes I love her children. Funny I care for him (her husband) for we where once friends.. I have found in my life that life is to short and can be to long. No I never wanted to reck a household. But, I couldn't stop myself from falling in love. Do I still long for her yes, do I want to spend the rest of my live with her yes. But, its not my decision, she needs to see if she still loves him and wants to be with him and I am to stand back and let time, space and faith in God work. I hope this story helps you. I sit and wait and yes go on with life the best way I can and work through my hurt and pray. Good luck.... The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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