to call, or not to call?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male My girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me a little more than a month ago. She cheated on me, then we had planned on working everything out and starting over. A few days later, she changed her mind and thought it better if we broke up. Every time I asked why, she gave me a different answer. She eventually told me that she needed space and time to herself. She was my first love, and I was hers. I would try to call her once a week to let her know i was still here to talk and everything, but everytime I called her, she would give me one word answers or act really smug on the phone like I was wasting her time. Needless to say, it mad me really angry and i eventually stopped calling. a few weeks later, I saw her at the mall and we sat and talked for a while. She acted like she really missed me, and asked for a hug before i left to go home. I called her a few days after that and she started acting like I was wasting her time again, so i havent called since.Its been a month since then and ive been trying to move on, but i still think about her often and miss her terribly. I want to call her, but my mind wont let me. I know how she'll act, and I'll only end up hurting myself. i want to move on, but im stilol in love with her. I cant help wondering if she's still in love with me and wondering about me too. Trying to keep busy helps, but I still want her in my life, even if she's not my girlfriend. should I call her despite of how i think she'll act? should I just wait until I see her again? I swear....I dont know what to do anymore. User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Stop calling her Did you say she cheated on you and you tried to work things out even after that, and you constantly called her and she is the one asking for time? wow Dude. Seriously, being a girl I would tell you to give yourself a break before anything else. Do you really need to work things out with someone who isn't sensitive to your feelings? Let's face it, she cheated on, yet you gave her a chance and she blew it again, but this time she is not giving you any straight reasons. I mean if she is not straight forward and is acting like she is giving excuses.....chances are she is just using your patience. You need to give her silence and let her come to you. You called enough times. Keep your own confidence and dignity on a level where noone can abuse it. I'm sorry for the harsh advice. Hope you won't mind. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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