My boyfriend's ex-wife calls constantlyWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female I have just recently broken up with my boyfriend. Everything in the relationship was good except for his ex-wife calling him pretty much every day. She doesn't want him back and is living in a different state near her family where she has a new job and is buying her own house. But she is a very shy insecure person but was also very controlling in their marriage. Apparently over a year since the separation she is still having a hard time adjusting to her new life and meeting people and feeling good about herself. But her constant calling made me so jealous and angry. I wanted to be understanding and compassionate but I just couldn't do it. It felt so threatening to me even though he has told me a million times that he just wants to be a friend to her because she is having a hard time adjusting to her new life. I saw it as an emotional bond between them that is keeping our relationship form growing. Now I am thinking that it was a petty irrational jealousy keeping our love form growing. Thye didn't even have a normal marriage and there is no sexual attraction. My ex-husband cheated on me and I have some insecurity issues from my youth. Was this all okay and I just lost a great relationship because I couldn't open my heart and give things a chance to evolve and develop on their own? User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female Right to leave I believe you made the right choice by leaving the relationship. My boyfriend recently broke up with me to go back to his ex-wife. His ex called constantly, claiming problems with their son. I accepted the interuptions from the ex, even tho I didn't like it. I have a son also, and realized they had that common bond. Little did I know, it would lead him right back to her. He felt he needed to be with her to see his son through high school as a family. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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