He broke up with no explanationWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female my name is Ashley this is my question its been one year since me and my ex have been broken up he never gave me a exact reason he just said it wasnt working out this hurt me deeply and i couldnt understand why just out of the clear blue sky he would end our perfect ongoing 5 month relationship! we never argued, we gave eachother enough space, i was so Happy i finally met prince charming. when he broke it off i was shocked! i couldnt understand why i even asked his "boyz" if they knew what was up with him? all they said was they didnt know and maybe he just had feelings for his ex or he just lost interest in me. This made me sad why would he loose interest in me? was he just sexually attracted to me and then he got bored so he moves on to the next beauty queen? I mean it just sucks not knowing why i tried to ask him so many times and all he said was nothing like we werent evn togther for 5 months. DOnt i deserve an answer! I spent alot of time and emotions on him. I really felt so much passion for him im so in love with him still amd im afraid my feelings for him wont ever go away. I am so scared I pray to God sometimes to help me in this situation. I hate not being with my ex he made me feel so comfortable and loved now he is gone. hes out of my life maybe even with another girl i dont wisha anything bad on him but i want him 2 know if he ever wants to try again i will i will.Please i need SOMEBODY"S advice. i would be so Grateful u User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female Get an answer How Invalidating is that answer? WOW!! First, relationships do not just end, and No, you are NOT obsessing about the past. What a bunch of B.S... Plain and simple you are heartbroken and yes, you do deserve an answer because you did invest your time into that relationship and he should be honest with you even if the truth hurts you, he should be man enough to tell you becuase you are worth it. This guy is avoiding giving you an answer because he is a coward, let me say it again, COWARD!! You have done nothing wrong except want to know what happened and you deserve an answer and one day you will get it, just keep trying, it may not be tomorrow it may be next year, but either way you will find your answers. (Remember the squeaky wheel) You are not obessesed, you are heartbroken. Obesessed is a dirty word that all psychologist and psychiatrist use too make you feel bad for feeling the way you do. When you stop functioning in your daily life, like call in sick a lot, or not show up, not pay your bills, not get out of bed, stalk your ex daily at her/his home or work then you are obessesed. If you are doing that stop, and you may need help to recover from this heartbreak. Heartbreaks can bring about stresses to your mind and body that you never thought possible. And NO, you did not cause these things nor did you cause the pain in your heart, your ex did. Your ex brought you done this road, and abandoned you when you least expected it. The only reason everyone says to you, "Move on or let is go, or meet new people", is because that is what was told to them when they were heartbroken. They don't want to deal with it or be involved in it, so they invalidate yoru feelings and call you names like obsessed. So, let me ask you, how does it make you feel to be invalidated for your feelings, and called obsessed? Just think if we all walked the planet never giving an explanation or reason for anything we did, or being held accountable. HMMM. Do all you can to get your answers is my advice, mind your own heart and head and don't ask these so called professionals unless you need to be called names and be invalidated. Remember, there is nothing wrong with you in wanting to know answers to questions. YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW!! From one professional to another. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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