Him or his friend...We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female So... there's this guy that i work with that i really like. We're pretty good friends and we've both acknowledged that there is an attraction b/w us. Unforttunately he does have a g/f and i've let him know that i can only respect that. He on the other hand wouldn't care if he was dishonest in his relationship b/c it is in a downward spiral he says. We hang out every once and again and get along so well, but like i said he has a g/f so that just kills any chance of anything happening b/w us right now. At the same time he has a friend that is also really cool and attractive, i've hang out with him and his friend a few times but don't really know him on a personal level although i wouldn't mind. Just from conversating with him a few times i definitely would like to get to know him better. I'm looking for a relationship and so is he. I guess my question is whether or not i would be wrong for showing an interest in his friend and/or getting to know him better being that the guy i work with and i also like each other? In a way i don't think it'd be wrong b/c of the fact he has a g/f but being that it is his friend wouldn't seem right either. I just don't know.... help me please :( User Submitted Advice from a 41-50 year old Female Be a lady IF THE GUY YOU ARE WORKING WITH IS NOT SERIOUS WITH HIS G/F, HE SHOULD ACKNOWLEDGE IT TO HER AND TELL HER SO THAT THERE ARE NO SECRETS. iF HE TELLS YOU HE'S NOT HAPPY WITH THE SITUATION, HE HAS TO FOLLOW UP WITH HIS G/F TO GET ON WITH HIS LIFE. IT SEEMS TO ME IF HE COULD FEL THAT WAY ABOUT HIS G/F, HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU WOULD'NT BE TREATED THE SAME FROM HIM. IF HIS FRIEND IS SINGLE {AS WELL AS YOURSELF} THERE IS NO ATTACHMENT TO EITHER OF YOU. SO I SAY GET TO KNOW THE FRIEND AND DON'T JUMP THE GUN SO TO SPEAK. LET HIM KNOW YOU AE A LADY AND WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE ONE. TAKE IT ONE DAY ATA TIME The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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