Going to the USAWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I have already asked for advice concerning this matter before. But there is another problem. I am leaving for USA for higher studies and the friend whom I like he is studying in UK. I am gonna leave within a week. Now the problem is even if he asks me out again should I go for it because if I say yes to him this time, then this would be a long distance relationship. And I have seen that long distance relationships don't usually work out well. Though I trust him a lot still I am pretty scared to say yes because I am afraid about if this does not work out well. I just dont want to lose him as a friend. I just want to know whether it would be a wise decision to go for it if the friend asks me out. User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Huge commitment If you are not looking for a serious commitment/relationship, don't go for it....BUt,even if you are... I was in a long distance relationship for 2 years, it ended in him cheating and now we are still the closest friends, except, he's married to the woman he cheated on me with when he was in a different country for a year. HOnestly, I think if we both tried a little harder it could have worked. please consider: we only COULD see eachother for a month about every six months or less, so if you can see your guy more- go for it. But we also claimed to be deply in love engaged "soulmates" before we made our decision to continue to long distance. There are soo many opportunities for miscommunication which really splits people apart, and if you are to try this, make sure you dedicate set times you talk per week/day, send cards, pictures, letters, and keep eachother honestly and deeply informed of what is happening in eachothers lives, and talk about the positive things as much as possible, ignore the little jealousy things such as what u see on myspace,or hear about him talking to some girls, as long as he's still putting you first and talks to you about his problems before he talks to them, it's good and do the same. But it's a huge commitment, so if u are just friends, as i said, maybe u should wait....sorry, i write tons! But if you two have that possibility/connection of something more, maybe it's worth it to try, either way, it shouldn't ruin your freidnship. GOOD LUCK! : ) The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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