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Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I met my husband 3 years ago in which I ended up getting pregnant and married to him. I have feelings for my husband but I am no longer in love with him. There is no respect, communication,trust or boundaries in our relationship. I am soo unhappy and its making it hard for me to see any point in living. The one man who I am truly in love with, I came in contact with today. I haven't seen or spoke to him for 5 years I had lost his number and email address. He says he wants he and I to be together and he says it would be paradise he said he would treat my children as his own and that he loves me and never stopped loving me. I totally and completely beleive him and I love this man he treated me like a queen among queens but the thing is that he lives in Florida and I live in Canada and I had met him while on vacation there. I dont know what to do. I am currently sponsoring my husband for him to stay in the country and I feel he is just using me for that reason. I didnt want to marry him but he begged me until I gave in as well as my parents were pressuring me. What should I do should I pursue the relationship with my true love or do I stay and be unhappy and pressured with my husband.

PS, remember I have 2 children




User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female
Stay smart


Please be with the man you love!.. untrustworthy relationships shouldn't be endured. marrage is such a huge thing and doing it cuz he begged you and not cuz you wanted to is.. well.. too me sounds crazy!

tell your true love about your concerns.. maybe he would start a new life with you somewhere else. remember even more important then this guy is your children custody battles are hard. especially if they are unsure of whom they want to stay with.. make the decision for them.. because choosing is too hard.

oh there is also trying to do what they did in 'What Happens In Vegas' like trying to make him cheat on you and you having proof..or.. find him the perfect woman that he would want to leave you for! then your case if pretty much easier. he cheated. you can't handle it.

also have a back up plan, like a bank account that neither of the men know about incase you get stuck for cash or something bad happens.......stay smart.. good luck. xx

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