He Left Me, I Did All the Work, I Want Him BackWe often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female My boyfriend of almost 3 years just broke up with me a month ago. He still calls me (more than before)and we've still been sleeping together, but not as often. He has dated a few girls, and he tells me about it. At first he'll have nice things to say about the other girl, but he always finds things wrong with them and he tells me all about how inconsiderate this one is or how opinionated this other one is. I'm just really confused, he says he still loves me, but he isn't in love with me. I try not to hound him about it, and I told him maybe he just needs to date other people for him to realise what we had...but it's just so hard. He broke up with me because I was jealous that he never seemed to have any time for me but insisted on going out and partying with his friends. He works 12 hrs. a day 6 days a week so I used to take care of everything for him, laundry, dishes, cleaning, making sure the bills got paid, and I kept him more than satisfied sexually. I just put so much of myself into making this work, I don't want him to think I'm giving up, but I don't want to make him feel like I'm pressing the issue because it'll only push him away. Any suggestions for winning him back? Thanks for your time =) User Submitted Advice from a 13-20 year old Female Ok hey how ya doing? I have some advice for ya. Well I experienced almost the same thing about a year ago. I was with a guy for about a year. And then he broke up with me for reasons I dont remember (we broke up a lot) and we still slept together. And he told me about his "girlfriend" and about how nice she was, and about what they argue about and about how her mom loves him. I was stupid and still slept with him because I was in love with the guy. Well eventually I said to him "I dont think we should communicate untill you grow up and realize that what your doing to her and me is wrong". Then finally he came back to me, He broke up with her for me. Then we got back together and everything was fine for about another 7 months. But then I got tired of the relationship, and realized that I needed to get a move on with my own life, not his, And he tried so hard to get me back. But I just said No. Ive dated other guys since him, broken hearts, and had mine broken. But I guess thats just the way it goes. I suggest that you tell him that its wrong what he's doing, and refuse to sleep with him, untill he realizes what he's lost. trust me on this one. If he doesnt see the light, and just moves on with his life, Know that there are plenty of other guys out there, A LOT better than him. And know that he really doesnt want you anymore. Don't waste your time with someone who is just going to use you. You can do better I'm sure. good luck! The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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