Does he still care?We often have visitors write in with solutions to each others' problems. Here is a visitor's solution to one of our visitor's questions. Original Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female I have already submitted my question about getting over my relationship, but I just have another concern I'm dealing with. After two years together, my ex never calls and that makes me very sad. It makes me feel like my relationship with him was so insignificant. Like if I did not mean anything to him at all. We had an okay relationship, and we have been broken up for almost two months. He called me by accident on March 16th, by asking me did I call him because a blocked number came across his phone. I believe that was just an excuse to call me, so he could ask me about receiving any mail. I just get so hurt that he doesn't even try to see how I am, or even act like he cares at all. I know he recently went on a date with someone else, but after two years he can't call and say Hello. Do you think he doesn't call because he doesn't care and he has moved on or do you think maybe he doesn't call because he is not over it. He broke up with me he should be over it. Let me say that I was his first serious relationship, and also his first sexual encounter Tell me what you think>>> User Submitted Advice from a 21-30 year old Female Think of her feelings What I have learned from past relationships is that good things to eventually come to an end unless you and that person has actively made plans to marry. Why hasn't he called after that accidental call? Well, there are several reasons why. He may not have gotten over the past with you. It just might be a lot easier for him to get the space he needs to heal. This is what happens when you don't -- You fail to move on. when you prematurely decide to call your ex before you are ready, you head back to square one in the grieving process. The other reason is that he may have moved on. If he has already moved on, he could be seeing someone else. That is another reason why he could be so distant. You are also denying the "acceptance" that it may be over by not moving on yourself. If you absolutely need closure and want to know why he hasn't called you (be prepared to hear what you may not want to hear) give him a call and tell him exactly what is on your mind. However, keep it in your heart that he may not come back and all you are seeking is closure. Good luck when you are ready to head back out in the dating world. You can learn a lot from this breakup. You will eventually find someone who can really give you want and need out of a relationship that he could no longer provide and that is a true commitment. The Original Question and RomanceClass Answer
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