Weaving a tangled web

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I'm 18 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We've always had a very intense relationship and I was always so deeply in love with him. However, about 6 weeks ago, I started to find myself feeling trapped by our constant companionship. I consulted friends, family...everyone I knew! Everyone told me to break it off with him and personally, I agreed. The first time I tried to break it off with him, he convinced me to 'take a break'...this lasted about 5 days. About a week later, I was very straight forward and told him I wanted to break up. He lost it. He cried so hard and told me he couldn't be without me. That he'd never make it. I am a sucker for his tears and I found myself begging him to take me back. In total, this scenario has happened 3-4 times. I know for sure that I want this relationship to end, I just can't bear to hurt him, although I realize that what I am doing is only making it worse. However, I have only complicated things more. About 2 weeks ago, I told my friends and family that the relationship was over (for I honestly believed for that time that it was). I have been too ashamed to explain the situation and I have also begun dating a guy I really like. I am now caught in a tangled web of lies to everyone I know. The guy I am dating believes I am single, my friends and family know I'm dating this other man, but my boyfriend thinks we are still together. Help me! I want to fix this all without hurting too many people.




Our Suggestion:
Your boyfriend is using drama to keep you.

Tell him once and for all that you are done with him and have a new b/f. Do this gently, of course.

Then tell your family and friends that you broke up finally with your ex and that you have a new b/f. They should all be happy for you.

Good luck! George

--Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com




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