What I can do after long distance relationship?

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Hello
Here is very upset deaf girl...
Please,help me with answer,whatever is it,i would do...
Me and my ex met 2 years ago,online...Im from Bulgaria,he is from USA.So,we fell in love ,we planned he come to Bulgaria and live with me...and he came September...left for USA and came back November,and stayed with me Until March 2007
When we was apart,we chatted EVERYDAY...not a missed day...
To gain more trust,we gave our email passwords,so,in case someone have any doubt,just to check in...
And the hell started...a his mate,girl,sent to him love letter...saying that she love him,or whatever..i asked him,he said its a joke....but FORWARDED this mail to unknown account...
He lied me that this account was on his another mate,who didnt believed him...
So,i started get worried about this...i acted nice,but always doubts...
So,the end of the story is,that on Jan 10,i again opened his mail,and saw registartion mail...with name similar to someone...so,i sent password request,changed password,and entered this other mail..and i saw a letter expressing very special feelings to another girl...
HE BROKE WITH ME IMMIDIATELY,and started date this girl...and he announced that he is falling in love with her...
BUT
He said that he never stopped love me,but of course he blamed me in spy,that "he couldnt live with this,he wouldnt tolerate this"...and he keep saying he miss me...and that RIGHT NOW we cant be together...
After this i talked to his friend he told me,that he cheated on me,how many girls had sex with him,and shocking facts...so much painful...
Of course i begged him to come back,and this was mistake,in all those 2 months i begged him,but he kept cold and rude attitude towards me...
But he always say that he miss me...
This was gret relationship...we together laughted,cried,cherrished,but his other side was cheating on me....
2 months i tried talk to him,and begged him...he keep tyhis rude attitude,dating the other girl,but he said thats because talking with me is so painful,but turned all the guilt on me...and we said so much painful things...
What i can do,to make him see me,and back him to me?
Especially when we are on distance...
iam hoping on,that he say that he never stopped love me,and that he miss me..but he keeping being rude...




Our Suggestion:
Stop begging him because that is pushing him away from you.

Maybe he is saying that he never stopped loving you so that you would feel better. Maybe he likes the new girl more. You must prepare yourself for that shock.

He cheated on you so many times, how can you trust him... or perhaps you don't care about the cheating.

If you stop contacting him he may realize how much he misses you and then he will contact you. This is just a hope, of course.

Being long distance is a very challenging thing and there is little you can do about it. Try the idea of not contacting him (for two to four weeks) and see what happens.

Good luck! George


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