Does this romance have any chance?Suggest AdviceDo you have some advice for this person? Visitor's Question: I have been living with my boyfriend for nearly 9 years and do love him but don't think I'm in love with him anymore. We've been through quite a lot as he has addiction and alcohol issues as well as being useless with money! I've gotten quite close to a guy I've worked with for 4 years (he's been living with his girlfriend for 4 years) and we ended up kissing and getting physical on a night out a couple of weeks ago. We've both admitted thinking 'What if...?' and are still being flirty with each other but I'm not sure what to do. I am seriously considering leaving my boyfriend, not just because of this guy (even though I'd love to get it on with him), but 'cos I'm fed up! Our Suggestion: Try to separate your feelings for this new guy from your feelings about your boyfriend. Your boyfriend definitely sounds like a loser. It's no wonder you have fallen out of love with him. If you are going to break up with him, be sure to do it in a respectful and honorable way. That means not seeing this new guy outside of work... or at least keep a hands (and lips) off policy. You will feel better about yourself if you can separate from boyfriend and still be friends. After all, nine years is a long time. Once you have broken up, give yourself time to know yourself as a single woman again. Try not to get into a rebound situation which could easily fail. Take time and find a guy who has no addiction problems and has a good financial head on his shoulders. Going from one person to another with little or no break is usually a mistake. Good luck! George --Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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