I really don't know what 2 do, all I do know is I have 2 get her back.

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Me and my girl started dating around March 2003. First off let me go ahead and tell you that she is Italian and I'm african american so I already had my back up against the wall. Anywayz, her mom doesn't like me at all but has never met me and her father doesn't believe interracial relationship are right. I've only been inside her house once and we hardly were able 2 see each other. Just recently she brought up that she can't be with someone who isn't baptized. I told her I'd be willing 2 do it, just not at her church. About 2 dayz after we had that conversation I saw her in the mall and tried 2 go and talk 2 her. She wouldn't speak 2 me and I somehow worked up enough courage just to flat out ask her if we were still together and she said "no". A couple nights b4 this whole mall incident happened she told me she had something 2 tell me, but that I didn't probably didn't want 2 hear it. We both love each other very much and I see I'm going 2 have 2 change some things if I even want a chance 2 get back with her. We're both young (I'm 19 and she's 16) and she says she has a lot going on right now as well. I really don't know what 2 do, all I do know is I have 2 get her back. I know there are more out there, but I want this 1. I know if it was meant 2 be then we'll be together, but I'm not trying 2 hear that. I just want 2 know how should I go about trying 2 get her back. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.




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She is probably being truthful when she says she's got a lot going on. It's the transition from school to summer, and she has a lot to think about.

Unfortunately, it sounds to me like she's too young to really commit to a relationship, particularly one that goes against her parents' wishes. I think that you're going to have to let her go and find someone that's more at your level.

Getting her back will require a whole lot of honesty and communication, which she may not be willing to do. She needs to tell you what her concerns are about dating you and why she broke up with you in the first place. So much of getting back together requires her to change her mind, and that'll be hard to do... I wish you luck!



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