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my wife and i have been married for about a year and half. i have been in korea for the last six months and now i have to move to utah. the probelms is she doesn't want to move. i think she afriad of leaveing behind her family and friends. i am about to give up.




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This is really rough. You haven't been married long enough to cement the relationship, and now you're torn away again. This is very rough on both of you. I can understand how you would be frustrated with this situation.

If you can, sit with her and find out the root of the problem. It may very well be that she doesn't want to leave her friends and family. Perhaps you can suggest that she move out with you for three months as a trial and if she's really homesick, then she can go back, but that you really need her at your side if the marriage is going to work.

If you have good relations with her family, talk with them and see if you can gain their support in convincing your wife that the right thing to do is to move out to be with you. The more people you have on your side the better.

I wouldn't give up hope just yet, but yes you will need to do some work to make this all come to a positive, happy ending.

I wish you the best,

Jenn



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