I don't want to make him uncomfortable with my always proclaiming my love

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My bf of 2 years and 8 months broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. It was a somewhat mutual decision, as I had said if some things couldn't be changed then I couldn't be with him anymore, and he does not feel capable of making those changes right now (he suffered from a bad relationship before and has some committment issues).

Whenever we talk (which is on an almost daily basis - and he gets upset if he doesn't hear from me in a while) he says how much he loves me and misses me, and how he always will. I love and miss him too, and just want us to be together. Yet despite him saying these things (including discussions of if he has to move away for a new job if I would move with him) he continues to say he is not ready to be with me. This hurts and confuses me a bit, as I don't understand if he loves me and wants to be with me then why are we apart. I know I want to be with him - and I would be if he wanted it.

Just this weekend he was in a pretty bad car accident, he is ok, nothing seriously hurt, but it has really scared me. I love him so much and don't want to lose him. But it is killing me to not be with him at this time, helping him recover. I have offered to be there, but he doesn't seem to want me there. I'm scared this near-death-experience might push him farther away from me. I tell him I love him, and am here if he ever needs me, but how much should I say?? I don't want to make him uncomfortable with my always proclaiming my love if he is now thinking to just move on with his life.

I'm very confused, I know I want to be with him, but I don't know what to do or how to deal with being apart that can help us get back together.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks



Our Suggestion:
It appears that you both love each other but he isn't willing to make a committment.

So one thing you can do is to drop your requirement for a committment--this is what caused you to break up, right?

That's my advice-- not very pleasant for you but a starting point.

Good luck!
George

--Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com



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