I want her back and she is with another guy as of now.

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Ok I am 19 and have had a a little over a year long relationship with the love of my life. We have been seperated for 3 months. Things started off good and bad right away, she lied to me the first 4 1/2 months of our relationship and it was only about going out and hanging with other guys... I told her that I am fine if she hangs out with guys as long as she tells me the truth. Well after I caught her lying over and over, things were rough but we talked about it and worked through it. So we were having the greatest relationship for the next six months or so and I had been living with her and her family for a month before I left for college. We both got kind of busy wiht her having her job and me having to play college football. I was with her everyday all day until then and didn't hang out wiht my friends or anything. Well in the last couple weeks of our relationship I would come back on the weekends and hang out with my buddies till she got off of work. She didn't get off till 10 and would always go to sleep when she got home and got mad at me sense i would still be over at my friends instead of going to her house just to sleep. So she broke up wiht me one night cuz she said I wasn't trusting enough. The next week I gave her flowers and everything and she still said no so I went home. Then she stocked me the whole night coming to my house and driving by and then called me later to come over. So i went over and she was acting like were together again. And before i left she told me that things are great and we should be together again. The next day I found out she had gone out on another date with a guy and when I called her about it she got mad at me and flipped sh##. Saying some hurtfull stuff. So I didn't talk to her for about 2 weeks and then all of a sudden she came over one night crying and telling me how much she loved me and missed me but couldn't be with me. So we talked on and off and then she came over on Xmas and said she loved me and wanted to be with but half way through the night said that she didn't love me and didn't want to be with me and just ran off. The next day I emailed her telling her how I feel and that if she wanted anything to do with me friendship or more to reply back..she didn't, So I didn't talk to her for 3 months cuz everyone said that would be the best. Then we started talking again the other night and she told me she had a new boyfriend a year younger then her and they have been going out sense Valtines day. It is my little brothers best friend and he has my old football jersey and locker... But she just told me that she loves me and cares about and doesn't know whats gonna happen... She says she is happy with this new bf but still has all these feelings for me and that they don't matter anymore and then says they do. I am wondering what I should do to get her back and how to do it sense she is with this other guy right now??

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She is a very confused woman.

She has you jumping like a jumping jack and has had you doing that for months.

My advice is to step back. Call her once a week to see how she is doing, to let her know you still care. Be cheerful and don't talk about your relationship.

You've tried all the standard things to get her back with mixed results and then finally this break. Keep the door open by being her friend.

Good luck! George

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One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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