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Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Alright.Here it is.3 years ago i fell for my best friend.She had a boyfriend at the time.They broke up.I recognized my chance here.I wasnt blind.But i told myself that since i had been true to her thus far i should give her just a LITTLE time to heal before i make a move and tell her everything because quite frankly she couldnt have handled it.
The very next week she started to like me.She noticed that i have always been there for her.But deciding to protect ME from HER (cant believe my luck) she vanished and didnt respond to phone calls because she didnt want to hurt me like other guys had hurt her.She hooked up with a couple of losers since then.
ANYWAY.This year i finally got to make my peace with her.I told her over the phone everything.She told me over the phone her side of the story.Then i met her face to face and got to say what i WAS GOING TO back when i had that chance. (Its really easy to say what you would have done but I SWEAR ON EVERYTHING I HOLD DEAR I was going to in just a couple of days).
We are still the best of friends because we have both been through a lot with eachother and do care deeply for eachother.After all we both used to REALLY CARE about eachother.In fact this whole experience has actually brought us closer now that we see everything of eachother. I might have a shot with her if things dont work out with her current boyfriend.BLALBLABLABLA its a very fragile and strained relationship.But anyway im not ready for anything more with her now, and i wont be for at least a little while.Besides, she is moving a few hours drive away to go to a new school.So i wont likely be seeing her again for a long time.And im starting a new course in school and i know ill have a fresh start to make new friends and new people.
I want to do something really sweet for her JUST AS A FRIEND to show her that ive healed, that i will think of her,will still be there for her to lend a helping hand even if its just with talks over the phone and basically for us to celebrate one he** of a ride over the last couple of years with eachother that made us both a little wiser and a little better people and to celebrate all the good times and memories. So im going to spend a day with her and do all the stuff we like.
There is just one thing troubling me......
I have ONE photo of her and me back when this all started...
It fills me with good and bad memories everytime i see it.That picture stands for 2 things to me.
One, it shows that i finally had become man enough to go for it, be there for her, step up and try my best against all the extra obstacles most kids my age dont have on the way to trying to have a relationship.It shows my effort, my love for he,r and my dedication to not giving up.
Two, it shows that back then in the end my best was not good enough. It reminds me that doing the right thing for her in giving her a little time costed me everything."nice guys finish last".And that can still rattle me to the core sometimes.
I look to that picture for inspiration sometimes.Sometimes i am too scared to even go near it.
It is the ONLY photo i have of her and me. I want to give it to her at the end of that day with something sweet written on the back. But i could just give her a letter.But that would mean keeping that picture.I seriously see down the line after going through a couple of relationships hooking up with her.But in the mean time i want a picture of her and me...just not one with that kind of effect.
What should i do?
She is leaving in 3 weeks.Please respond by then.My last question over a month ago didnt even get a response.Sorry for such a long story but i thought it best for who ever reads it to understand what im going through TOTALLY.
Please respond in time.
This is hopefully the last time ill ever have to post a question on this site.But please respond SOON.
Thank you for your time.
Unless I've missed the point (and if I have feel free to write back), you need to find a digital camera or a packaged camera and get people to take pictures of you on the last day.
That way you can give her the old picture and you will have new ones. Get her address and send some to her.
Regarding the post that you say was unanswered. Our records show that you sent a post on June 16th and that it was answered within a week or so. Hope you get this one.
Good luck! George
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One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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