Is it wrong to move fast

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hi There..

My question is real simple. Is it bad to spend alot of time together too early on ?

I had never used any online dating site before.I signed up to one 2 weeks ago and started chatting with a girl..We started to speak on the phone for 2 to 3 hours a night and finally met in person this past Saturday..We had an INCREDIBLE night together. We both like each other and mutually agreed that we would not sleep together on the first date..We went out to dinner, drinks and them pretty much locked ourselves inside for 20 hours watching TV and smooching and cuddling..

I am 30 and have had one relationship of 5 years + and have dated alot so relating to women is not a problem.She is 26 and had a b/f of 7 years who she broke up with last year. She has been on dates with about 5 guys she met online since July. Her and I connected very well on the phone and after matching the physical attraction in person with that it felt perfect.

It seems that both of this want this to go to the next level eventually. Are we insane to want to spend quality time together so soon ? I mean this is def not lust,we are both adults and looking for the same thing.

Is there any reason we should slow this down before we start really pushing forward ?

Looking forward to hearing back from you
My advice is to do what feels comfortable.

Since you feel like you want to slow it down, talk this over with the woman and see how she feels. I have always felt it is more fun and works in the long run to jump in fast and deep. Let your feelings be your guide.

Good luck! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at

Add RomanceClass  to Twitter Add RomanceClass  to Facebook Add RomanceClass  to MySpace Add RomanceClass  to Digg RomanceClass+ Add RomanceClass  to Yahoo My Web Add RomanceClass  to Google Bookmarks Add RomanceClass  to Stumbleupon Add RomanceClass  to Reddit

Speak Your Mind - Share your Thoughts on this Question!

All Advice in the category - General Dating

Browse our Answer Database
- Browse Answers by Question Category
- Browse Answers by Age Group
- Browse Answers by Date of Response

Please read through the advice on this site before you Submit your Own Question! We have thousands of pages of valuable advice that can immediately help you with your situation.