Its on the tip of my tongue

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Okay.
To answer the question.
They drank and danced and stuff.That was about it.Then he told her they aint a couple and she now knows hes a jerk.

ANYWAY. I spent time with her.Not as much as i wanted to and stuff kept screwing up stuff i had planned but i did have fun.

She has a bit of a problem with opening up.
A real problem.
I know its all thx to some guy...like to punch him for making this harder for me...
The other day i tried to delicately question her and stuff about why she is so quiet.
A friend of mine asked some for me on the side.
Apparently she "finds guys annoying".But at parties in the spirit of things she dances and has fun.Its like the side of her she keeps quiet.Its her finally relaxed.

I tried to explain that im not one to mess around.That i would to anything to make sure she trusted me.
She told me there was nothing i could do.
But i know she and i are still gonna hang out just like b4 so its not really a step back so im not frustrated.

I have this instinct that i know how i could get closer to her but i cant put into words...
"guys can be annoying"
"she opens up when she is relaxed"

I cant figure out what idea is spinning around in my head to use this info to my advantage.

Something along the lines of. Fine. Just have fun and be cooky and keep her laughing. UGH! I can see it running through my head i just cant figure out what ive figured out that i should do to help this!

With what i said do you know what it could be?

Something also like the w/e approach.Dont take things seriously so she just realizes that im a guy who wont keep pushing and trying to KNOW ALL ABOUT HER...some1 who is perfectly comfortable just being around her and going to partys....UGH! Like trying the EXACT opposite of the typical thing "get to know her,be swav etc etc" is my best shot cuz she seems to like the opposite of that.She wants someone to pal around with and thats one who in a WEIRD way she might open up to.

I just knew exactly what it was.So i can actually try to do it. I just have bits and pieces of this idea.Do you know what i might be working at in my head.What approach this is im looking at?

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She will eventually open up when she feels comfortable.

It's human nature to want to share thoughts, feelings, and comfort. Give her time and don't pressure her. Try sharing with her and see what her reaction is. Perhaps she would open up if she saw you doing it, but slowly and gently.

You will be doing her a great favor by helping her with this if you can.

Good luck! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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