Found evidence he might be cheating...

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
As I was getting ready to leave for work this morning, I checked my boyfriend's coat pockets for some gum and found a condom too. My heart sank completely since I'm on the pill and we don't use condoms. I can only ask myself why does he have this with him?

Also, around Christmas he has a briefcase type thing he uses for work and noticed that he had some wrapped gifts inside. Being extremely curious as to what he may have gotten for "me", I tried to figure out what was inside. It felt like lingerie so I would wait for Christmas to see if I was right. Christmas came, but I never got those two gifts.

A few weeks later I checked his bag again, but this time I found opened lingerie and a bag full of condoms. There was one empty wrapper.

I feel like a complete idiot after 3 years with him. For a year I've felt that something is off with us, and this confirms it for me. I emailed him once I got to work about what I found in his coat, but not about what was in his bag. I want to see what excuse he has for it, if any at all. This is going to be extremely hard because I live with him (basically like we've been married). I don't know what to do. I'm devastated because I still love him. Advice
It certainly appears like he is cheating.

And, he is being so obvious about it probably because he wants you to find out about it.

Guess you will find out soon once he replies to your email.

Good luck! George

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