Is it worth it

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been going together for almost four years now. We have a pretty good relationship like others we have are good times and bad. It seems like we started to have problems like two months ago when he started to talk to this girl on the phone. At first I didnt have a problem with him talking to her on the phone. Just as things dont go to far ha knock yourself out. One day he was at my house watching a movie and I picked up his phone to see if he ever got the picture that I sent him. When I went in his text messages he had a new text that he had from that same girl. Sense that is my boyfriend I have a right to go and see what she said in the text message, so I read it and I wished I never had. She said "boo what time do you get off". I told him what she said and he said that he was sorry and he said that he wouldnt talk to her again and deleted her number. Sense it wasnt that bad I dropped it. I say a month later I was on his myspace page and this girl sent him a message so I answered like I was him. I went on her profile and saw that she had "in a relationship" so I asked her how was her boyfriend. She messaged back in about two days, she said that she thought that he was here boyfriend and sense he got what he wanted he dosent want to talk to her anymore. At this time I was so mad that I asked the girl to give me her phone number for we can talk over the phone, she gave it to me and when I called her she told me that he told her that he broke up with me a long time ago. I asked her why would she think that when he has all the pictures of me on his myspace page and she said that he doesnt have time to take them off. Ok so I said if this is your boyfriend why wont you call him she told me why wont I. I asked her how long have they been going out and she said that it is none of my business and hung up. So I call him and ask him about it . He tells me that she likes him and she wants him to be her boyfriend and thats when he stopped talking to her. He was calm and said that he would never cheat on me and if he was trying to hied something from me why do I have all of his passwords and I can look through his phone when I want to. So I got off the phone with him and she kept calling me. She kept saying that he was her boyfriend and how they do all these things together but I cant see how because I know his whole schedule. If he is not with me (I see him like 5 to 7 times a week) we are on the phone or he is playing basketball. If he is not doing that he is at one of his two jobs so I cant understand how can he have time to cheat on me. I kept telling her to call him on three-way for I can hear it for myself but she wouldnt. One thing that she said that popped out was when I lied and said that he was at my house and she calls me back and asked me why did I lie she just got off the phone with him and he was with his friend. What makes it so bad she was right. If he stopped talking to her how do she know where he was at. I got really mad and I told him to come to my house. When he got to my house he told me that he called the girl and cursed her out asking her why is she calling his girlfriend and to never call him again. I wanted to see if this was true so I called her to see if she wanted to talk to him, her sister answered the phone and said that she doesnt what to talk. I hear her in the background crying and said that I can have him. I made him go home and he calls me later that night and tell me that he love me and that he is sorry, I asked him sorry for what and he said for putting you through that. He tells me he will call me in the morning and I say ok. He keep telling me that Im stupid if I think that he is cheating on me and how everyone knows that we are together. He says if I think that he is cheating of me then we should break up because he can not date anyone that he has to wonder if they trust him everyday. What should I do, should we break up are should we try to work on our relationship.

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He has given you his passwords which means he doesn't have anything to hide.

Believe him when he says that he doesn't want to go out with someone who doesn't trust him.

Try to work on your relationship.

Good luck! George

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