Making Progress : Aftermath

Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Hey George long time no speak :)

Well, nothing has really changed in my situation.
However, alot of questions have been answered.
It has been six weeks to the day since I've posted here and also six weeks to the day since me and my ex have spoken. I currently live directly across the street from her and it can become very difficult at times.
I havent tried contacting her in any form since she suggested we dont speak anymore. It's sad that we dont even
acknowledge eachother when we are both outside. I pretend to be interested in something else and fight real hard not to look or be caught looking in her direction. The tough part is the mind games that go one in my head when I catch her looking over towards this house. I've noticed her glancing over when driving by or getting out of her car from work. Sometimes it appears as if she wants me to see her. The stupid side of me tells myself that hey! she misses me and then I have to knock myself back down to reality so I dont get my hopes up only to get crushed.
I know she is seeing someone else and spending alot of time with them. Spending the night at his place etc.
That is the reason why she suggested the no-contact.
She is interested in someone else.
I'm really curoius though if I really was making progress until this guy came along? Could it be that she was scared of getting hurt or let down ?
I know that she ran into him at a wedding and believes that there is a reason that they did run into eachother. An Act of God.
Funny thing is that she hasnt been attended church lately and doesnt spend much time at home and is always on the go.
When her and I started dating she still had feelings for her ex and always wanted to come hang out with me. I am re-living that moment but now I'm on the otherside of the fence, lol.
So, basically I wonder if the newness of the relationships wears out she would try to contact me. I also wonder if it gives her some joy to cause me some frustration due to our past. ( I'll show you. Payback )
Aside from this debacle every else is great!
I have been working out alot. Eating healthier. I was baptised June 3rd and I did finish my marriage commitment course regardless of my circumstances. AND I made the worship team at the church and will be playing the bass with band every few weeks. I am going to be VERY nervous because it's my first live gig and I have to play both sermons. She could be at the second service. :o
Geoerge, what are your thoughts of this mess?
I would love to speak with her or see her up close.
I dont feel as though it's my place to make first contact.
Plus, she is with somebody else :/
I have been dating and getting out alot.
I'm working at moving on, but I cant help but still hope for a second chance. Unfortunately time reveals all. This sux!
Just thought I would give you and update.
Take care.

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RomanceClass.com Advice
Hi again,
It is time for you to make some contact with her. Even if you just walk across the street and say hi. No harm can come from it and who knows what good. It's well worth the effort.

You have done a lot of good things to improve your life. You can feel very proud about that.

Good luck! George



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One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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