I want to make her love me!

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i have a problem. the girl whom i like to girlfriend of another boy who is very low profile kind of boy compared to me.

which strategy i should follow to make her love me.

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You seem to have skipped right over my FAQ on "how do I make someone love me?" I'll reiterate below :)

You can't ever make someone love you. Love is about voluntarily feeling strong emotion for someone else. It's like making someone love liver. That person might like liver, or hate it, or love it, but it is something they feel.

If a guy is totally wrapped up in skiing, and skiing is very important to him, and if you hate skiing with a passion and think it's a stupid sport, there is a basic disconnect between you two. No matter what trickery you try to do, the basic incompatability is there.

So the real question that I think you're asking is, is there some way you can change your fundamental makeup so that this person decides you're now perfect for him/her. The problem with that is that real love is based on two people truly being in love with the *real* person that they see. Someone who really loves you *will* love you for what you are, exactly are you are NOW. If you have to trick the person, or change yourself, or do certain things, it's just not love.

Don't settle for someone you have to fool into being fond of you. Find someone who truly loves you for what you are, the way you are. That kind of love is the kind that lasts forever.


-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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