I don't know what to do anymore

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My gf and I been in an on and off relationship. In the beginning of our relationship, she cheated on me with her ex. We broke up and I took her back. After a few weeks, she started liking this girl again and that girl liked her back. So broke up with me for her. But then she realized that she made a mistake. I was so cruel to her and I only took her back because I felt really bad. Since then, I became insecure and jealous and everytime she meets new girl friends, I get scared.

So yesterday, she and I had a fight. We fought because I got mad at her for not telling me that she will be hanging out with this girl who used to like her (different person). I told her how I'm really scared and I have these what if's questions all in my head. I think about what if that girl will start liking her again? What if that girl will make a move to her while they're at her house. (this is their first time hanging out)

Everything cooled down for a little bit. During that time, I wrote that girl a message. I didn't threat her or anything. I just wanted to tell her that I dont want to lose my gf.

I guess when she read it, she told my gf that they shouldnt hang out. So my gf texted me about it and I replied back saying "i'm sorry". she texted me back saying how I didnt mean that and stuff. I got so mad at her that I left her a voice mail cursing at her.

This morning got everything cooled down for a little bit but I brought up about them hanging out and she just flipped out. I told her about my opinion about them hanging out and she said "it's none of my business". I feel like I cant tell her about my opinion anymore. I understand that she's so tired about my jealousy but I sometimes I feel like she doesnt want to help me at all about it.

I dont know what to do. I was thinking just be friends with for now on because I think that if we go back, it will be the same. I love her so much but I cant do this to her anymore. Please help me

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RomanceClass.com Advice
How about taking a break?

This might cool you both down and give you a better perspective.

Right now you two seem to be in a rut where you can't get along with each other. A break may break that habit.

Good luck! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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