sick of the games

Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
had to repost cause i missed some stuff..so..
my ex n me dated 1 yr for a whole yr no breakups, then we have 1 fight and it was no big deal and she dumps me out of the blue. and she told me its cuz she doesnt kno wut she want, and tha she might want her ex(and apparently they did end up going out but only for a week) but ya i tried talking to her about the problem..but she was ready to leave me without even an explanation. everytime i tried calling her she would tell me to leave her alone..go bug someone else or hang up.
so i stopped talking to her left her alone for a whole week 1/2.(its been a month since the breakup now) then outta the blue she started talking to me, and was caring about anything that i did like she would make it seem like she actually cared about me and was interested in like whoever i liked. and i have this profile on this site called nex, and you can see who visits your page..she visited mine 5 times in a day. so wen i asked her why she even cared she told me she had to go to bed.
then a few days later...i tried hinting in my blog with "i am always wondering wut ur thinking" and she replied back "i wonder if ur thinking the same thing as me, i wonder if u think back all the time, i hate this"
so then she started talking to me and being flirty and nice. when only a week ago she was so mean. then she wrote in her blog "ex bfs r exs for a reason" so then i put again i wonder what ur thinking...and then she replied back saying "don't be afraid to let me know..you know who you are boogey monster(my pet name i guess lol) and i wanted her to talk 2 me but she wouldn't. but wen i asked her about it, she told me she didn't know. and i asked if she even meant it she didnt know. so i told her to leave me alone shes like k sorry bye....whast going on?lol..like can't she leave me alone...she must not be fully over it or sumthing? the reason i told her to leave me alone, is if she is not meaning what she is saying don't keep leading me on u know? i do care about what is going on..but i don't want her saying something that is not true.
since the breakup she smokes now, does drugs everything i didn't want her doing she does. yet she cares what i'm doing? she won't even reply to my emails. but when she was being flirty she told me "i don't want to be completely away anymore"
do you think its just a game? do you think she is regretting it but not fully letting me know? do you think she will come back down the road, since i'm her longest relationship. there wasn't even a good reason to why we broke up do you think shes missing it, but to afraid?

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Yes, she is playing mind games.

She can't figure out what she wants and the drugs don't help any.

So, let her play her games and now that you realize they are games, you can roll with the punches and maybe she will come to her senses. Or, if you want to stop the games, tell her to leave you alone and ignore her.

Good luck! George

-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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